How to Get the Most Out of Your Vibrator

My friend gave me a vibrator as a gift. How do I use this thing?

Here's a few tips on how to get the most out of your vibrator:

• Make sure you will be alone when you use it for the first time. You want to make sure you'll have plenty of time and won't be interrupted by a roommate, partner, kids or other family. You may want to turn your phone off and avoid any other things that may distract you.
• Use lube! Whether you have plenty of natural lubrication or not you will need more. Some toy materials will pull moisture out of your vagina and your body only produces so much. It also adds a nice slick, silky sensation. There's more information about lubricants in the Toy Guide section of the website.
• Make sure you clean your toy before and after with a specially made

  toy cleaner. A lot of people think that if they use soap and water that it's good. It's not. Soaps have ingredients in them that will cause toy materials to crack and dry out. The best toy cleaner is one with anti-bacterial ingredients in it.

• Get relaxed before you use your toy. Take a nice hot bath or shower.

  If your toy is waterproof, you can use it in there if you like. Keep in mind that a silicone based lube can be used in water, but not the water based lubes.

• Turn your toy on. Put it on your skin between your nose and your upper lip. This is a way to test how intense the vibrations will be in your genital area. This is particularly important if you have a vibrator that you cannot control the vibrations.
• Take the vibrator and roam around your body with it. Start with the places in your body that hold a lot of tension. For most people that would be the neck and shoulders. It will help you relax and prepare for an orgasm.
• Continue toward areas of your body that are the erogenous zones and sensitive for you. This would be the breast, nipples, inner thighs. For more sensation use your fingers to stroke the areas where your vibrator has just been.
• Work your way toward the vulva. Start with the outer labia buzzing all around. Now spread some lube all around the vulva. Be generous with the lube and add it if you need it. Spread your outer labia and move the vibrator around the inner labia sliding around the clitoris, but not directly on it. Some women are very sensitive and cannot stand direct stimulation of their clitoris. You can continue as long as you like. You can keep doing this until you reach an orgasm. About 80% of women need stimulation of their clitoris in order to have an orgasm, so it's highly likely you can orgasm without ever inserting the vibrator in your vagina.
• If you like you can insert the vibrator in your vagina and thrust it like you would have during intercourse. Some vibrators are specially shaped to reach the G-spot. Some vibrators are specially shaped with an attachment that simultaneously stimulates your clitoris while your have it inserted into your vagina.

If you do the above, you should have a wonderful experience. When you feel comfortable you can experiment with other sex toys. Don't just stop with one. There is such a variety out there that you can find something that works for you. One of the reasons sex toys are so great is that it allows you to experiment and find out what turns you on sexually. This can help you get the most out of having sex with your partner. Don't forget that you can also have your partner use a sex toy on you-and how to introduce them into your relationship sounds like a question for another day.

Have fun!

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